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11 Major Deceptions You Must Guard Yourself Against…

October 16, 2012

Genre : Self help/Self-improvement/Relationship/Marriage

Word Count: 10, 153


In our today’s world, there are certain statements we hear either from the mass media, our peers or other sources which have undoubtedly formed part and parcel of our mindset. As a matter of fact, information we listen to have over the years unequivocally eaten deep form the root of our growing years of childhood and youth to the stable period of adulthood. Consequently, these statements are saliently expressed and understood words of deception which have affected our dealings with people. Therefore, the need to ‘guard’ ourselves form deceptions is at this point necessary. ‘What are the deceptions?’ A question you may want to ask.

Our case study is centered on deceptions that have to do with social interactions involving people. In other words, relationships existing between and or amongst individuals (of opposite sex) and married couples have unarguably been hijacked by the device known as deception thereby truncating the meant-to-be marital bliss and true intimacy that exist. Hence, there are fact_based records of demise in relationships amongst individuals (celebrities inclusive), broken homes, estranged and divorce cases amongst married couples.


In our world today, infidelity, acquisition of sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies,divorce, demise or break ups, separation or estranged situations, insecurity and doubt and many others have unequivocally plagued relationships and marriages existing amongst individuals_celebrities inclusive.The prominence of these ills is due to the psychological acceptance of certain blindfolds known as deceptions.

The classic, titled 11 Major Deceptions You Must Guard Yourself Against… sheds light on the negative effects of eleven major deceptions as they affect the unions of individuals with their spouses,in relationships and marriages, using a “let us face it” approach by sighting true life stories and situations.Also,it gives lasting solutions to those seeking for the recuperation of their relationships and marriages, though dependent on choice.

It is aimed at specifically ensuring that healthy, blissful and enduring relationships and marriages are maintained, amidst the apparent cancerous spread of these ills.

Moreover,to growing youths, especially teenage men and women, who are currently not involved in serious relationships or married but aspire to be in a union with their spouses in future, this ageless masterpiece educates them on the inevitable truths associated with successful and healthy relationships leading to marriage by “preaching” to them their relevance:the right start to kick against the eminence of thriving blindfolds or deceptions.

Chapter Sample


“It is no big deal loosing your virginity”

In recent times, youngsters, loosing the worth of virginity is no longer an anomaly as it used to be. In fact, there are various statements that encourage young people to ‘give up’ their virginity. Expressions such as “You are not a woman, if you aren’t sexually active”, You’re missing the peak of sexual enjoyment, if you don’t indulge in it”, “This is the age you experience the dynamics of manhood and womanhood”, Make love!. You ‘ll become a complete person” and so on are used to effect what has now become the acceptable modern value – promiscuity instead of chastity. However, if we view this issue from both sides of the coin, can it be said that promiscuity possesses an intricate (positive) value than chastity?

Consider a situation where a farmer, as part of his painstaking selfless service towards community development, was handsomely rewarded with two fertile lands which he has to choose from. The first land had been bush-fallowed, used for other not-good purposes (diabolism). However, its soil is fertile, very cultivation-friendly. On the other hand, the second land has never been fallowed, posses a host of ever-green tall trees, productive medicinal crops and cash crops, never been defiled and obviously very fertile. If you were the farmer, which of the lands would you choose from?

Undoubtedly, Teenagers are the ‘victims’ of this development as they take in hook, line and sinker the efficacies of the deceptive “It’s no big deal losing your virginity”. From the every late years of childhood to the stable years of adulthood, virginity loss has become a household name and is an embraced phenomenon. Why?

Generally, youths seem unperturbed; the ‘cancerous spread of virginity loss in the lives of every tom, dick and Harry. Unfortunately, young women are most times victims of this eventuality. Conversely, teenage men are not left out as virginity loss sets the pace for a likely insecurity and doubt (infidelity) in their subsequent dealings with their female counterparts

At this juncture, a “striking” statement would be made to enlighten people about virginity’s worth, irrespective of gender. But the term “virginity” has its light reflected on the woman, though it applies to the man. Hence, our attention would be focused on the female genders. Before the “striking” statement, a ray of light would have to be shed on the term ‘virginity’ ,cutting across the male and female gender’: virginity is a mindset which can be translated as the ability of the individual to abstain or practically say “No” to lust-filled offers, no matter the nature of prevailing circumstance.

“The only physically sacred possession, worth, most cherished jewel a woman can really uphold is her virginity. Without it, she is (likely) to be treated like other women, irrespective of status and background. The consequences?. Increased in-security and doubts as unveiled by infidelity continued fornication and adultery. The way out? A thorough and genuine spiritual overhaul”. This is the “striking statement”.

The Leonards Da Vinci’s Monalisa Portrait is the most insured material in the world; no man can buy it, even the world’s richest man! What is fascinating is that modern X-ray can reveal only its three visible versions. If a man-made material can be seen as the most expensive and insured, how much more the God-inputted virginity?

Founded in 1886, Coca-Cola arguably remains the most richest and successful bottling company in the world. Why? The peculiar (codified) concentration that tastes uniquely different in various places is obviously the reason for its greatness. Without this reason, Coca-Cola, like other bottling companies will undoubtedly not be as successful as it is. In the same but a more greater vein, a woman who is a virgin is one in a million of women, an analogous “field”, attracting well-meaning men to her because what is “codified” in her is undefiled, yet to be decrypted.

A Buddhist Priest is designated with the “ritualistic” responsibility of keeping the sacredness of the temple at specified times. Similarly, the God-given virginity is a sacred worth which ought to be kept until the time is discerned for consented ritual is figured out. In other words, marriage should be the specified time (time discerned) where the fullness of consented ritual (sexual intercourse) exercise can be appreciated. Unfortunately the sacred worth of many young people (especially women) has been lost before the “stipulated time”. In fact, the world has turned upside down, clamping down the accepted value of chastity and promoting promiscuity in various forms; media, schools, and people. Without an equivocation, there are consequences of “decrypting” the God-given ‘code’ before the ‘stipulated time’. What are they?

Reviewing the crux of the “striking” statement with respect to the asked “what are they? the following can be inferred.

(1) Increased in-security and doubt (as unveiled by infidelity)

(2) Continued fornication and adultery

Others include contracting diseases, vagueness in direction (life-set goals) poor sense of judgment, low self esteem e.t.c. These would be explained in Deception 2. Precisely, these point at the gravity or efficacy of encouraged promiscuity using the loosing-your-virginity approach as a starter.

On the other side of the coin, chastity poses its consequences whose price demands a painstaking commitment with proven-results of self control. The following showed the aftermaths of chastity.

(1) Chastity saves youngsters from the dangers of unwanted pregnancies (female ones)

(2) Chastity prevents young people from imminent dangers of contracting diseases that are deadly.

(3) It precludes juveniles from the servitude of increased in-security and doubt and in future, infidelity in terms of continued fornication and adultery.

(4) The worth of chastity affords youths the opportunity to be goal-focused; prospect-driven; success-oriented and counseled rightly.

(5) At this point, a question is directed to you: Sincerely which of these is a mirage? Options: (a) Chastity (b) Promiscuity.

If you are reading this and you are not a virgin, it is no crime. After all, as humans, we are mistake-bound. However, you can start now by vowing to become chaste, though it is a hard nut to crack task but it is worth the effort, considering the long-term benefits. If you are a virgin, no matter what is been said, always say to yourself, “I am one in a million of women.

Note: If you question seven guys on whom they will marry, there is a likelihood that you will get at least four response saying; “I would prefer marrying a more chaste girl”.


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